Ali Your crush talks to your friends but doesn’t say anything to you for a reason.
It’s not that your crush doesn’t want to talk to you, he or she wants to talk to you so badly but he or she can’t get himself or herself to talk to you.
The fact that he or she is talking to your friends but not you, it seems that he or she is super close to initiating a conversation with you.
Or it may take forever for him or her to say even hi to you.
If he or she is talking to your friend but not you, there is a reason why this is happening.
The moment you know why he or she talks to your friends but not you, it will be easier for you to change things.
You may be waiting for your crush to start talking to you, but he or she may also be thinking the same.
This means you will keep waiting on each other until the coffee turns cold.
This is why your crush talks to your friends but not you;
1. He or she is not confident to face you.
Your crush talks to your friends but not you because he or she is not that confident to confront you.
The fact that he or she doesn’t talk to you even when he or she is so close to you — shows that he or she is aware of how the two of you feel about each other.
He or she may know that by how you look at each other and the tension when he or she is around you.
It’s always hard for someone to express his or her feelings to someone he or she cares about because it requires courage.
There is so much that can go wrong when you start talking to someone you have feelings for.
Apart from that, there is the fear of rejection that may be holding your crush from talking to you.
Your crush is talking to your friends first to find the courage to face you.
Maybe he or she is searching for an angle he or she can use to confront you.
It’s easier for your crush to talk to your friends but not you because he or she doesn’t have feelings for them.
There isn’t that awkwardness between him or her with your friends so the conversation is super easy.
But when it comes to you, there is tension of love, fear, anxiousness, and the fear of the unknown that creeps in.
Your crush doesn’t know how things will turn out to be when he or she starts talking to you.
He or she doesn’t want to mess things up not knowing how you are going to react after he or she gets close to you and tries to initiate a conversation.
Your crush isn’t confident enough to face you and that is why he or she talks to your friends but not you.
2. Your crush is befriending your friends.
Your crush talks to your friends because he or she wants to befriend them first.
Most people do this when they are trying to get closer to someone they know is influenced by the people he or she hang out with.
It can be that your crush realized that you are super close to your friends and it would be harder for him or her to pull you away from them.
He or she had to come up with a strategy of getting closer to your friends first before coming to you.
Your crush is befriending your friends so that it will be easier for him or her to get to spend time with you when your friends are around.
If he or she is super close to your friends, getting closer to you will be easier for him or her and that is why he or she is talking to them.
Your crush talks to your friends because he wants to be friends with them — which will help him or her to get even closer to you.
He or she thinks that when your friends like him or her, you will automatically join the queue.
When your friends find it easier and interesting to talk to him or her, you will also start talking to him or her because of the influence from them.
3. Your crush is also waiting for you to initiate the conversation.
Your crush is not talking to you because he or she is waiting for you to initiate a conversation.
He or she wants you to start talking to him or her before he or she says something to you.
Your crush started talking to your friends because he or she realized that you are so close to them.
From his or her assessment, he or she found out that it will be easier for him or her to get you to start talking to him or her when he is always so close to your friends.
Your crush is talking to your friends so that you get the opportunity to say something to him or her.
You may be waiting for your crush to say something to you, but he or she is also waiting for you to start the conversation.
So, you may all be waiting for each other to start talking to each other, unless one of you makes the move, there won’t be any conversation between you.
4. Your crush wants to use the connection he or she has with your friends to get to you.
I earlier told you that your crush talks to your friends because he or she wants to befriend them.
After your crush is friends with your friends, it will be easier for him or her to set them up to pull you closer to him or her.
Since he or she is in the middle of your friends, he or she can ask them to set the two of you on a date.
Your friends will be open to any suggestions because they are friends with him or her.
And before you know it, the two of you will be set up together for a date or in a situation that will force the two of you to speak to each other.
Your crush wants to use the connection he or she has with your friends to get closer to you.
He or she is talking to your friends right now but later on he or she will get to you.
Your crush is using your friends to get to you, very soon he will get closer to you through your friends.
He or she may also ask your friends to talk to you on behalf of him or her because he or she doesn’t have the confidence to talk to you.
All these things are possibilities and that is why your crush talks to your friends and not you.
5. You don’t show interest in your crush when he or she is around.
For your crush to find it easier to start a conversation with you — you have to show him or her that you are interested in talking to him or her.
Your crush won’t say a word to you if you don’t show him or her that you are interested in talking to him or her.
If you have been distancing yourself from your friends when your crush is talking to them, this could be the reason why he or she thinks you aren’t interested in him or her.
Your crush assumes that you just don’t like him or her and that is why you stay away from the group when he or she is around.
If your crush thinks that you don’t like him or her, don’t expect he or she will talk to you.
Also, it can be that you have been excluding yourself from the talks he or she has with your friends and that is why he or she assumes you don’t like him or her.
When someone thinks you aren’t interested in them they will always avoid starting conversations with you.
Deep down they know that the chance of you ignoring them is higher so they don’t want to embarrass themselves.
Also, it can be that the attitude you display when he or she is talking to your friends — shows that you don’t like him or her being around and it makes him or her feel like you resent him or her.
And that is why he or she talks to your friends but not you.
Your crush ignores you but talks to your friends because he or she thinks that you don’t like him or her.
But if you show your crush positive gestures that you are interested in him or her — your crush will stop ignoring you.
6. Your crush doesn’t know how you feel about each other.
Your crush is avoiding talking to you because he or she is not aware of how you feel about each other.
Maybe you assumed that he or she is aware that the two of you have a crush on each other but that is not the case.
You notice him or her but he or she doesn’t notice you. The attention he or she gives your friends is different from the one he or she is giving you.
This may be a result of you being distant from each other to the extent that he or she doesn’t notice that something is going on between the two of you.
You can’t just start talking to someone unless there is something that pulls you closer to them.
When it comes to you — you have never given him or her a gesture that you are interested in talking to him or her and that is why he or she doesn’t even talk to you.
Your crush talks to everyone else but not you because he or she is not aware if you have a crush on him or her.
Maybe he or she sees you and notices how amazing you are but he or she doesn’t think you see him or her the same way he or she sees you.
This may be another huge reason why your crush talks to everyone else around you but not you.
There is nothing that pulls him or her to talk to you.
If your crush knew that there is a connection between the two of you, he or she would find you to be incredible and interesting — he or she would have talked to you a long time ago.
Lastly…
Your crush is talking to your friends but not you because he or she wants to spike the curiosity in you to make you get closer to him or her.
He or she knows that you will have a lot of questions about why he or she talks to your friends but not you.
Your crush is just trying to get your attention, all the questions you have now about why he or she doesn’t talk to you but your friends, might be the reason why you start talking to him or her.
She or he talks to your friends but not you because she or he is trying to create a connection with your friends first that she or he will use to get closer to you.
Soon or later your crush will start talking to you after involving himself or herself with your friends.
If you have been waiting for so long for your crush to talk to you but he or she keeps talking to your friends and ignoring you — make a point of showing him or her that you are interested in talking to him or her.
Gather your courage and say hi or anything else that would grab his or her attention to make him or her realize that you notice him or her.
Read also; Why Is It So Hard To Talk To My Crush?
And this may be the only thing you need to make him or her start talking to you.
Your crush is not talking to you because he or she is not confident enough to confront you, he or she is afraid that you might dismiss him or her or your crush is waiting for you to initiate the conversation.
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