Ali Your crush says hi to your friends but he or she doesn’t say anything to you.
The thing is that you know that you both like each other but he or she ignores you.
He or she is very interactive with your friends — when it comes to you he or she just pretends like he or she doesn’t see you.
For you to handle this situation effectively, you first have to understand why your crush does what he or she does.
So that you don’t do or say anything that might push him or her even far away from you.
Your crush is aware of what he or she does. It’s just a way to make you think so much about his or her intentions.
For you to understand how to handle him or her when he or she ignores you, you need to know why he or she does this.
You should know that if he or she talks to your friends and ignores you, it doesn’t mean his or her interest in you is fading.
Some of the things I will share in this article will surprise you.
This is why your crush talks to your friends but not you;
1. Your crush may be shy.
If your crush talks to your friends but not you this is the first thing you have to know; your crush is shy.
He or she knows that you both feel something for each other but he or she doesn’t have the courage to confront you.
This is something common for people who are into each other.
It is usually hard for someone to express his or her feelings to someone even when he or she knows that person feels the same for him or her.
So, if your crush talks to your friends but not you even when he or she is close to you, this shows that he or she is shy.
It’s a challenge for him or her to start talking to you because he or she has feelings for you.
He or she knows that if he or she starts talking to you, everything he or she feels for you will be visible to you.
Or it can be that he or she is afraid of talking to you because he or she might not control himself or herself.
Trust me, it’s not as easy as you may think. You may have feelings for someone but to gain the courage to pick yourself up and say what you feel is going to be the toughest thing.
Your crush may be shy and that is why he or she finds it hard to talk to you.
It’s easier for him or her to talk to your friends because they have no intense feelings.
For you, it’s harder because a romantic connection exists.
If you have noticed that your crush can’t look you straight in the eyes, this is a sign he or she is super shy.
He or she lacks the courage to face you, be around you, and express what he or she feels for you.
It’s normal for your crush to be shy. It shows how intense the feelings are between the two of you.
You can say anything to someone you don’t have a romantic connection with, but it’s a different case when you are next to someone who makes your heart race.
2. Your crush is using your friends to get closer to you.
If your crush talks to your friends but not you, it can be that he or she is using your friends to get closer to you.
He or she knows that you both feel something when you look at each other, but he or she can’t seem to find an easy way to get closer to you.
It seems impossible for your crush to just come directly to you because he or she thinks that he or she might scare you away.
So, he or she is befriending your friends first for you to understand how he or she interacts with other people.
This will give you an idea of the kind of person he or she is to know how to start a conversation with him/her.
Also, it can be that your crush wants to win the hearts of your friends before he or she starts talking to you.
He or she wants to make your friends like him or her before he or she starts talking to you.
If your friends are familiar with him or her, they might even play a big part in connecting the two of you.
Your crush is using your friends to get to you.
He or she knows that if your friends like him or her, you will also find it easier to get closer to him or her.
Don’t be surprised when you start noticing your friends convincing you to meet up with him or her.
They might set the two of you up on a date.
So, if your crush talks to your friends but not you, this is what he or she may be hoping to achieve.
3. Your crush wants to get your attention.
Your crush is aware of the game he or she is playing. He or she has noticed that you know he or she is avoiding you.
He or she gets so close to your friends, talks to them, and even hangs out with them when you are around but he or she doesn’t seem to pay attention to you.
Your crush acts like he or she doesn’t even see you at all. The truth is that he or she sees you.
Right now you have so many questions and that is why you are searching for answers.
This is what your crush wants you to do. Your curiosity is what will push you to talk to him or her.
Since he or she is not talking to you, you will want to know why he or she doesn’t.
This pushes you to search for answers.
Your crush knows that you might either ask your friends about why he or she doesn’t talk to you or you may end up confronting him or her.
When you get yourself in the quest of wanting to know why he or she ignores you, this is when you will start giving him or her the attention he or she wants.
This is one of the techniques people use to get other people’s attention.
So, if your crush doesn’t talk to you but talks to your friends, this is just a way to make you curious to start giving him or her the attention he or she wants.
4. He or she wants you to initiate the conversation.
Your crush doesn’t talk to you because he or she wants you to initiate the conversation.
He or she is the kind of person who will only talk to someone who talks to him or her first.
You have to understand that people are different. He or she may be an introvert.
He or she only talks when someone talks to him or her.
Your crush has been talking to your friends because they usually bring about topics to discuss.
You are around your friends but you have never said even hi to him or her and that is why he or she doesn’t talk to you.
When your crush is around you just look at him or her and say nothing.
So, he or she affirms himself or herself that he or she will never talk to you unless you do.
That is why the push and pull between the two of you exist though you don’t know it does.
You are waiting for him or her to start the conversation and he or she also expects the same from you.
If you have never talked to your crush even when he or she is around your friends; he or she is waiting for you to say something before he or she can start talking to you.
5. You usually distance yourself when he or she talks to your friends.
You may be curious as to why your crush talks to your friends but not you, yet you are the reason this happens.
Since you know that there is a spark between the two of you, it kinda pushes you away when he or she is around.
When your crush comes around and starts talking to your friends you distance yourself or pretend to be busy with something else.
He or she doesn’t talk to you because he or she thinks that you are too busy or not interested in talking to him or her.
You don’t give him or her a friendly face, you walk away the moment he or she talks to your friends and you act too busy to even look at him or her.
This is why he or she doesn’t talk to you.
So, if you have been disconnecting yourself from your friends whenever he comes around then know that you are the reason why he or she doesn’t talk to you.
Don’t expect that he or she will leave your friends and follow you up even after you have distanced yourself just to talk to you.
Your crush doesn’t want your friends to think that he or she is talking to them as a way of getting closer to you.
6. Maybe your crush doesn’t know if you feel the same for him or her.
You may think that he or she is aware that you feel the same way for each other but that is not the case.
Since you don’t give him or her any positive gestures but only look at him or her when he or she talks with your friends, your crush thinks you aren’t on the same page.
So, he or she talks to your friends but not you because he or she thinks you are not into him or her.
He or she doesn’t want to embarrass himself or herself by starting a conversation with you when he or she thinks that you might end up ignoring him or her.
Your crush is not sure that you are also into him or her and that is why he or she doesn’t say anything to you.
Lastly…
If your crush talks to your friends but not you don’t keep waiting for him or her to say hi to you.
Take the initiative of saying hi to him or her when he or she comes to talk to your friends.
Your crush will only talk to you if you show him or her that you are also interested in talking to him or her.
But if he or she sees that you aren’t on the same page, he or she will not talk to you.
The moment your crush is around look at him or her, smile, and give him or her a gesture that you would like to talk to him or her.
You can just start by asking him or her about his or her clothes or just compliment him or her.
This will kick-start your conversation with him or her. Do This and you will thank me later.
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