Ali Most guys will tell you that they would like to get to know you better just to get closer to you.
They use this phrase as a way to find a means to find a connection with you.
Some mean what they say while others have other agendas in mind that they don’t want you to know about.
In this article, I will share what it means and why a guy would use such a phrase.
What does it mean when a guy wants to get to know you better?
When a guy wants to get to know you better it means he is interested in you, he wants to make his move on you but he wants to take things slow first to be able to determine if you are truly the kind of person he wants or not.
Yeah! He is interested in you and that is why he wants to get to know you.
The truth is that if he didn’t like what he sees in you he wouldn’t have bothered to want to get to know you.
He wants a way to get closer to you and connect with you before he makes his move on you.
When a guy says that he wants to get to know you better — he wants you to understand that he doesn’t want to rush anything.
Even though he may be interested in you the first task in hand is to connect to you and get to know what makes you tick.
The truth is that if he wasn’t interested in you, he wouldn’t have bothered trying to get closer to you.
When a guy is interested in you he will do everything he can to get closer to you. It doesn’t matter how long it will take, he will invest his energy and time in you.
This is what he is doing right now.
Anyway, there is more as to why he says he wants to get to know you better.
This is why he wants to get to know you better;
1. He wants something more from you.
When a guy gets closer to you, introduces himself, and starts with a friendly vibe and eventually he says that he wants to get to know you better — he wants something more from you.
He didn’t approach you to just befriend you. The truth is that he looked at you and knew where you would be in his life.
Before a guy says hello to you, he already knows if he wants you to be his girlfriend or just a friend.
Some guys will directly approach you and ask you to be their girlfriends but others will use a different approach especially when they realize you aren’t the kind of a woman to say yes easily.
Maybe your confidence intimidated him and that is why he decided to back down a little bit before he expresses what he feels for you.
If he thought expressing what he feels for you early enough would make you give in easily that is what he would have done.
For guys, it’s easier to notice when they want something more from you.
They can’t hide it in plain sight like women do. If a guy wants something more from you — you will notice that based on how he talks to you and handles himself in front of you.
He wants to get to know you better because he has a huge decision to make.
To do that, he needs something to motivate him to do the right thing. If what he wants from you is only friendship, he wouldn’t have told you that he would like to know you better.
2. He wants to take things slowly.
He approached you because something in you intrigued him — it can be how you are or how you handle yourself.
You are the kind of a girl he would like to have in his life but he doesn’t want to make the mistake of pushing you away.
He doesn’t want to express what he feels for you so suddenly thinking that he is going to scare you away.
The part of him saying that he wants to get to know you better is just him stalling.
He is buying time before he decides to move harder on you.
Deep down he knows that you don’t know anything about him. It would be crazy of you to accept someone in your life that you know nothing about.
He knows that before you say yes to him, get comfortable around him, and even get to connect romantically — it will take time.
He wants to take things slowly so that you get to know each other better; so that when he expresses his feelings for you it will feel right.
The answer you will give him after he has told you what he wants from you will be genuine.
It won’t come out as confusing to you because you have had enough time to observe the kind of a man he is.
Also, it won’t come to you as a surprise since he used his time to show you the kind of man he is and gathered information about you.
A guy can meet you and ask you to be his girlfriend on the same day without even knowing anything more about you as long as the vibe clicks in place.
If he says that he wants to get to know you better, he is just stalling. He wants to move slowly.
As he takes things slowly he will also be able to know more about you and gauge if you fit where he wants to place you in his life.
3. He wants to connect with you.
When a guy wants to get to know you better it means he wants to connect with you.
In most cases, it is usually a romantic connection that he is after and nothing else.
The truth is that he likes you already, the part of him wanting to get to know you better is just a way to get closer to you.
He knows that you are aware that for you to know each other better, you will have to be around each other, spend time together, and share so many details about yourselves.
In the process, you will end up opening up to him about everything and that is what he will use to connect with you.
As time goes by, he will find means to make you comfortable around him and you will find it easier to do and say anything around him.
And that is what will enable him to make the romantic connection he wants with you.
The more time you spend together in the name of knowing each other, the stronger the romantic connection will get as long as the two of you have a vibe.
It’s too early for him to say that he wants you to be his girlfriend since there is no connection.
You will easily dismiss him because nothing about what he says makes sense to you.
He wants to connect with you and make it impossible for you to get rid of him easily.
4. He wants to know if you meet his expectations.
When a guy interacts with you for the first time one thing is usually clear to him — that is if he wants you to be his girlfriend or a friend.
What he wants from you is usually clear to him but what he doesn’t know is if you can meet his expectations.
Guys have different preferences when it comes to the women they want to have in their lives.
You may have passed the physical appearance stage but he doesn’t know you can handle what he has to offer.
He will know that as time goes by. This is why he told you that he wants to get to know you better.
First, he has to make sure that you meet his expectations before he asks you to be his girlfriend.
The truth is that the moment he realizes that you match all the criteria he is searching for in a woman he would like to date, he will ask you to be his girlfriend.
But if he finds out that you don’t meet his expectations, he will slowly cut you off and eventually the connection between the two of you won’t exist.
5. He wants to know where your head is.
When a guy says he wants to get to know you better it means he wants to know what are your intentions.
It’s hard for him to read you. This makes it harder for him to gauge anything you do and say when you are next to him.
He doesn’t know if you want a relationship if you are single, or if you are dating someone else.
It will feel weird when he starts by asking you personal questions that will enable him to identify what he wants from you.
He knows that if he asks you if you are in a relationship, you will know that he wants to shoot his shot.
The entire time he has been around you it has been hard for him to figure you out. He doesn’t want to come blindly at you.
He wants time to know if you are on the same page or not and that is why he said he wants to get to know you better.
A guy doesn’t need to know everything about you to express what he feels for you.
As long as a guy is attracted to you, the two of you connect easily and you can spend a day without throwing each other under the bus, he will consider to be with you.
So, the part of him saying that he wants to get to know you better is just to find a way to know where your head is at when it comes to dating.
The moment he finds out that you are on the same page that is when he will express what he feels for you.
6. He genuinely wants to know you.
When a guy says he wants to get to know you, there are two things you should expect — he either wants to befriend you or wants a romantic relationship with you.
If a guy wants you to be his friend he will not be too poetic with you.
He won’t hold anything back from you. You will see and know everything about him that you want to.
So, if he makes everything clear with you and doesn’t seem so invested in spending time with you, he wants to befriend you.
He doesn’t want to date for now, he just wants a friend and you seem to fit his category.
If he wants to befriend you, he won’t share with you anything about his family, his life, and past relationships.
He will lean more on creating a professional relationship with you. What he will talk about with you won’t stray away from what you do.
Your communication with him won’t be super intense. He will only talk to you when he wants something from you.
His conversation with you will always have a purpose.
On the other side, if a guy wants to get to know you better it’s because he has no idea of the kind of a person you are.
He wants to be sure if you are the kind of person he would like to hang out with or not.
So, if it’s when you have just met, he wants to get to know you better since he knows nothing about you.
And as time goes by, he will know where he should place you in his life.
Lastly…
When a guy says that he wants to get to know you better it’s just a way to get close to you and connect with you.
In most cases, when a guy wants to get to know you better it means he finds you attractive.
He is interested in you, he likes what he sees, and what he is doing is just buying time.
If a guy doesn’t like you he won’t bother getting closer to you unless he benefits from you.
When a guy wants to get closer to you, it is only because he wants something from you.
If he shows you romantic gestures, this means that he is interested in you, but if he only handles you as a friend and nothing more, he wants to be friends with you.
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