Ali If you propose to her and she says that she will think about it, don’t sweat it too much, this situation can turn to your advantage.
You just have to know how to go about this. When she says she will think about it she just wants you to give her time to process what you have requested from her.
In this article, I will go deeper and break down for you what it means when a girl says she will think about it and what you can do about it.
This is the period where most guys mess things up because they have no idea of what to do during this waiting period.
You are nervous to hear what she has to tell you about the proposal and at the same time you want to hold her in your arms.
You don’t know whether she is going to say yes or no, this just keeps you anxious.
What does it mean when a girl says I’ll think about it?
When a girl says she will think about it after asking her to be your girlfriend or asking her out it means she wants you to give her time to determine which answer she should give you. She is unsure of what to tell you right now, it’s most likely she never expected this request from you.
The truth is that if she knew what to tell you the moment you asked her to be your girlfriend or asked her out, she would have told you the truth.
But you have asked her something so hard for her to respond to immediately because she didn’t expect that from you.
For her to give you a genuine answer that is not influenced by confusion and unease, she wants you to allow her to process it all.
And that is why when you proposed she asked you to let her think about it first before she can give you any solid response.
When a girl says she will think about it she doesn’t know what to tell you at the moment. She may be confused or she is trying to figure out if what you requested is something legit.
Especially if you have been so close to her and you have never given her any reason to think that you are into her, but suddenly you ask her out or want her to be your girlfriend.
If you ask a girl out and she says I’ll think about it
If you ask a girl out and she says I will think about it — she wants you to give her time to check out if she can go out on that date with you or not.
It can be that her schedule is tight and she first wants to check out if she will be free to go out with you or if it will be impossible.
Especially if she is someone who has so much going on, she didn’t want to tell you that she can’t go out with you because she is optimistic that she may get a chance.
If you asked her out and she didn’t want to go out with you on a date, she could have directly told you that she couldn’t do it.
But the fact that she told you to let her think about it, shows that she is considering it.
If a girl doesn’t have a tiny interest in you, the moment you make your request about anything to her, she will just decline it on the spot.
The fact that she told you she will think about it shows that she is considering it but it doesn’t necessarily mean that she will go out with you.
So, don’t just assume the answer that will come from her will be positive, prepare yourself with any response that will come from her.
I asked a girl to be my girlfriend and she said she would think about it
If you asked a girl to be your girlfriend and she said she would think about it this means that she was unsure of the response she should give you. She needs more time to process your proposal.
Sometimes when you ask a girl to be your girlfriend and she says she will think about it — she is either unsure of how she feels about you, she is confused, she didn’t expect that from you or she just wants to filter things out before she gives you any answers.
If she doesn’t know how she feels about you, she wants you to give her time to think and find out if she feels anything for you or not.
This is the time she will use to determine if you should be in the friend zone or someone special to her.
It’s also possible that you may not be the only guy who proposed to her — other guys expect a response from her.
She doesn’t know who she should choose and who she should drop, she needs time to determine the best guy for her.
This is something she may not tell you but you may be vetted with other 3 or more dudes, and the competition may be stiff.
What to say when a girl says I’ll think about it
When a girl says she will think about it after you have made your request, you have to let her know that you understand her.
She expects to hear something from you — either you will give her the time she wants to process your request or she should just forget about it.
If you are not okay with her taking her time thinking about what you asked of her, you also have to let her know about it.
But in most cases, if you have gathered your courage and asked her to be your girlfriend, you are probably willing to give her time to think about it.
This is what to say when a girl says she will think about it;
- Take your time to think about it, I know it is not a simple request.
- I can’t rush you to make such a huge decision in an instant, take as long as you want.
- I’m glad to hear that you are considering my request, I’ll be waiting for your response.
- Take all the time you need to figure out on which page we should all be on.
- I will patiently wait for your response, but you are surely going to give me many sleepless nights.
- No problem, I’ll wait to hear back from you soon enough.
If you have made a proposal and turns out that you have changed your mind — since she didn’t give you the answer you expected, you can just ask her to forget about it.
Let her know that if she has to spend days thinking about the request you made, she should let it slide.
This will make her curious to know why you changed your mind all of a sudden.
If she is interested in you she will take her time to explain to you why she wants you to give her time to process everything you have just told her.
But if she doesn’t care about you, not interested in what you asked of her — she will just say, “Okay.” and walk away.
That is when you will know that the response that you could have been waiting for days or weeks, could have been a negative one.
If a girl is interested in you that will be just clear even before you make your proposal.
What to do when a girl says I’ll think about it
1. Give her what she wants.
You have proposed to her because you need her. Right now you have no say over what she will decide.
She has told you that she will think about it, all you have to do is give her what she wants.
If she wants time to determine the right answer she should give you, let her do that.
You can’t squeeze an immediate answer out of her simply because you are too impatient to wait for her to process what you have asked of her.
Give her the time she wants to think about your request.
You should be happy that she said she will think about it because it shows she is considering it.
If she didn’t want anything to do with what you asked of her she could have told you No on the spot.
You need to respect her decision and give her enough time to think about what she should tell you.
Giving her time and not pushing her to give you her response immediately may also play to your advantage.
From that, she will know that you are an understanding guy, you are mature and you know exactly what you are doing.
Women want these kinds of men, but if you show her that you are impatient that will be the first thing she will consider as a red flag and drop you.
This may eventually result in a negative response from her, you will have no one to blame but yourself.
So, if she says she will think about it after you have asked her to be your girlfriend, be calm, don’t overthink, and give her the time she needs.
2. Keep yourself committed to something else.
As a man, you should always work on developing yourself every single day.
Having a woman in your life won’t change your status or give you an improvement on the self-growth goals you have been working on.
You don’t have time to waste at all. You have so much to lose every minute you waste chasing a woman.
If she said she will think about it don’t spend days thinking so hard about what will come out of her mouth.
Right now you have no control over the answer she will give you, so there is nothing you can do about it.
Instead of wasting your time, and wrecking your mood just because of something you have no control over, work on yourself.
Keep working on your projects, take yourself out on dates, keep working out, enjoy yourself, and keep making money, that is what matters now.
When you focus on something else other than what she told you after you asked her to be your girlfriend, it won’t bother you at all even when she gives you a negative answer.
At the same time, you won’t lose anything just because she told you to give her time to think about your request.
Let her see that you can keep moving your life as you used to without worrying about what she thinks and feels about you.
This is another way of telling her that you are the character in your life and not someone else.
This might be the reason for her to consider giving you a positive answer in an instant.
All women need men who have control of their lives and always work on improving themselves.
3. Don’t blow up her phone with messages and calls.
If she said she would think about it give her peace of mind. Don’t keep calling and texting her every day simply because you are expecting an answer from her.
You might be tempted to keep calling and texting every time thinking that you might influence her to give you a positive response.
What you need to know is that you don’t have control over what she is going to say to you.
The part of you blowing up her phone might turn her off even before she gives you the answer.
And this may be the reason why she rejects you in the first place.
I’m not saying that you should completely cut off communication with her until she gives you the answer.
You are free to say hi to her and talk to her about anything you are going on and the things you are working on.
Make the conversations casual and don’t keep talking about the proposal you made.
Don’t keep asking her when she will give you her response about what you talked about.
This will only annoy her, turn her off and she will reject you on the spot if you ask her to be your girlfriend.
Limit your conversations with her and don’t keep bringing up the topic she was supposed to think about.
As I told you earlier, focus on something else and you won’t find yourself in this position of blowing up her phone with texts and calls.
You may think that talking so much with her might help you keep her close and eventually make things right for you, but it may be a way of her getting bored with you.
4. Remind her if she is taking too long to give you the answer.
You have the right to remind her that she has a response to give you if she has taken longer than you have anticipated.
In most cases, if you have asked a girl to be your girlfriend and she told you that she will think about it, that shouldn’t take more than 1 month.
If it goes beyond that you should reach out to her and remind her that you are still waiting for her answer.
Some girls will pretend that they have forgotten what you talked about. This is just a way of them testing your patience and courage.
She may ask you to remind her what you talked about, don’t get angry at her and assume that she didn’t take you seriously.
Be a gentleman and remind her of what you talked about, if she is interested in you she will let you in.
If she isn’t interested in you that won’t change anything at all, she will still give you a negative response.
This is what to say if you want to remind her that she has a response you are still waiting for;
- Hey, it has been a while since I asked you to be my girlfriend, what is your decision on that matter?
- I have been patiently waiting for you to tell me what you feel about me, is it a yes?
- I was wondering if you are still figuring out what we should be, or did you let it go?
- You have kept me on hold for so long after I asked you to be my girlfriend, do you feel anything for me?
- I asked you out on a date 2 weeks ago, but you haven’t given me your answer up to date.
- Should I assume you don’t want to be my girlfriend or you found someone else?
You need to remind her because you don’t have all the time to wait for her to think about a single request.
Be bold when you remind her to let her know that you know what you want from her.
If she is into you she will give you a positive answer immediately but if she is not interested in you she will reject you.
Lastly…
When a girl says she will think about it the best thing you can do is give her time to process what you have told her.
Focus on something else so that you don’t spend hours thinking about the response she will give you.
Don’t keep reminding her every day of what you requested of her because she will find you to be immature and too much for her to handle.
Be calm and remember that you can’t control what will come out of her mouth, if she is interested in you she will let you know.
If you have asked her to be your girlfriend and she told you that she will think about it, don’t assume that she will end up accepting to be with you.
You have to be open-minded and be ready for any answer that will come out of her mouth.
If she says yes that’s a good thing for you, but if she rejects you don’t worry about it, keep working on yourself, and someone amazingly better than her will come in.
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