She Told Me Not To Wait For Her: Why?

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You expressed your feelings to her and asked her how long you should wait for her to give you her answer, but she said, “Don’t wait for me.”

 

Maybe you told her that you would like to be with her but she told you that she wants to work on herself.

 

When you asked her if you should wait for her, she told you not to wait for her.

 

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She may be moving somewhere far away or just traveling the world. Your relationship is hanging right now.

 

You don’t know whether you should make it a long-distance relationship until she comes back or not.

 

When you talked to her about it she told you not to wait for her.

 

You don’t know why she said that and that is why you are here.

 

In this article, I will share the meaning of what she said and why she said it for you to understand her point.

 

What does it mean when a girl says don’t wait for me?

When a girl says don’t wait for me it means that she is not planning on coming back for you. She doesn’t think things between the two of you will work out and she just wants you to move on.

 

If you were pursuing her and expected an answer from her, she told you not to wait because she is not going to give you the answer you are hoping for.

 

The answer is going to disappoint you that is why she wants you not to think about it.

 

She wants you to move on and find someone else because she is not going to come back for you.

 

Maybe you thought that if you keep making an effort to make her realize how you feel about her you will eventually manage to make her change her mind.

 

All you have to do is wait, she noticed that and that is why she told you not to wait for her because she is not going to change her mind anytime soon.

 

Let me go deeper into details with different instances for you to understand why she said that

 

Why she told you not to wait for her;

1. She doesn’t want a relationship with you.

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If you were seducing her to be your girlfriend expecting that she would give you an answer after a while, but she told you not to wait for her; she doesn’t want to be with you.

 

When a girl is intending to give you a shot, she will let you know early in advance.

 

She can either tell you she will think about it and that you should give her time or she will just keep you around.

 

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But when she tells you not to wait for her this is clear that she is not planning to come back for you.

 

She is moving on with her life. What you want from her is something she can’t offer.

 

The only thing you should think of right now is to move on with your life.

 

If she is your girlfriend and she is about to move abroad, and you asked her about your relationship but she told you not to wait for her, this means she is not planning to come back for you.

 

When she gets into that flight your relationship will have ended.

 

It can be that she thinks it will be harder for both of you to keep the relationship going because of the distance between the two of you.

 

You are used to being around each other and it doesn’t seem like you were made for a long-distance relationship.

 

She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by asking you to stick to her when she won’t do the same.

 

Your girlfriend is asking you to move on — find someone else because once she is gone so is the relationship.

 

2. She doesn’t want you to have your hopes high.

She is a girl you are fighting so hard to keep. You have been chasing her for a while but when you finally asked her if you should wait for her, she told you not to.

 

You seem so invested in her because of the effort you put into winning her.

 

She knows that. You have been trying hard to make her see that she means something to you.

 

The frequent calls and long paragraphs of texts expressing what you feel for her but she has been keeping you aside.

 

You finally decided to ask her if you should give her time maybe in the future she might let you in, the answer she gave you is, “Don’t wait for me.”

 

If she is still entertaining you it can be that she is into you, she wants to be with you but she is not certain if she should let you in or not.

 

She knows that if she tells you to wait for her it will only give you hope when she doesn’t know what she is going to decide at the end.

 

So, instead of making you optimistic about what she is going to tell you at the end, decided to ask you to move on.

 

She doesn’t want you to have the thought that one day she is going to say yes to you and give you everything you want.

 

What she is avoiding here is hurting you in the future when you realize that things between the two of you are not working the way you expected.

 

3. She doesn’t want you to leave other people because of her.

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You told her how you feel about her but she hasn’t given you an answer yet.

 

She doesn’t know what she wants in her life because she still has lots of things to work on.

 

There is no clear answer she has for you. Deep down she feels that it’s going to take a while for her to tell you where her mind is at.

 

You have realized that she has been taking you around in circles, she doesn’t want to tell you the truth and she is just wasting your time.

 

The things you do to try to make her open up to you about how she feels about you don’t seem to shake things off.

 

She knows it will take longer for her to make up her mind, if you are waiting for her you will never focus on other girls.

 

You might come across other girls who are genuinely in love with you but you will not let them in because you think she might accept your proposal.

 

She wants you to find the genuine people who might show up at your doorstep.

 

This girl doesn’t want you to miss out on opportunities to make amazing connections with other people because of her.

 

She doesn’t know what she wants and has no idea when she will be open to what you suggest.

 

Instead of her putting you on hold, making you limit yourself when it comes to interacting with other genuine girls, she told you not to wait for her.

 

4. She has someone else waiting for her or she is waiting for him.

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She told you not to wait for her because she has someone else in mind.

 

He is another guy out there who she is super interested in.

 

They are not yet in a relationship but she is hoping that in the future things will connect.

 

Her vibe with you is amazing, she enjoys spending time with you but she doesn’t feel the same way she feels for the other guy.

 

Her feelings for him are very intense. They can’t compare to how he feels about you.

 

She knows that eventually, the only guy she will end up taking in her life is not you.

 

You are just a friend to her and you will always remain at that level.

 

On the other side of the coin, she told you not to wait for her because someone else is waiting for her.

 

Another guy came earlier than you. He booked his space.

 

You made it very late. Now she only has her space for a single dude who approached her first.

 

It doesn’t matter what she feels for you, but she doesn’t want to let that space be occupied by someone else other than the guy she promised.

 

She promised someone else that she would give in to his request when she worked things out in her life.

 

That is why she doesn’t want you to stick around thinking that she is going to give you a chance when someone else came earlier than you.

 

5. She thinks her interest in you will fade as time goes by.

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It can be that she is interested in you, she loves you but there circumstances between the two of you force her to withdraw from you.

 

Maybe she is going far away from you, she is not trying to take a different path in life, she wants to focus on something else or work on herself.

 

She thinks that what she wants to do will disconnect the two of you. The connection between the two of you will get weaker because you won’t be working on the relationship.

 

Deep down she knows that it’s going to take a while before she is done with what she wants to work on.

 

She told you not to wait for her because she thinks she may not feel the same for you after a while.

 

The thing is that she doesn’t want to leave you hanging while hoping that you will pick up where you left off when she doesn’t know what the future will bring.

 

That is why she doesn’t want you to stick to her thinking that you will proceed from where you left off.

 

She knows that she might go deep not to emerge from what she is dealing with.

 

When she finally comes out it’s not guaranteed that how she felt about you will still hold.

 

Lastly…

When she tells you not to wait for her just move on. Don’t stick around thinking that you will get what you want from her after a while.

 

She will not give you what you think of.

 

Deep down she knows that nothing is going to work between the two of you and that is why she is telling you early in advance to move on.

 

If she wanted you around and believed that you would always hold a place in her heart, she would have asked you to be patient and wait for her.

 

But if she told you not to wait, don’t stress yourself holding on to her.

 

Don’t push other people away thinking that she will end up occupying your life. You are mistaken.

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