Ali When a girl tells you about other guys hitting on her there are two things she expects to achieve; she either wants to be on your good side or just to hurt your feelings.
There is always something a girl is hoping to get when she talks about things that she doesn’t have to.
Depending on your relationship with her and the situations you are in, when she tells you about other guys hitting on her, it has different meanings.
Let me share the general meaning before I go deep into details about why she tells you about other guys hitting on her.
What does it mean when a girl tells you about other guys hitting on her?
When a girl tells you about other guys hitting on her it means she wants to keep you on your toes, make you jealous, get your attention and affection, make you feel insecure, and gain your trust.
As I said earlier, it depends on your relationship with her. Don’t worry, I will clarify everything you need to know.
If a girl says something that plays to her advantage, she either wants to gain something from you or she just wants to put you cornered.
Let me break down the situation for you to understand what she is hoping to gain by telling you about other guys asking her out.
When a girl tells you about other guys hitting on her;
1. She wants to gain your trust
If your girlfriend tells you about other guys hitting on her it means she wants to gain your trust, she wants to make you feel jealous and insecure, she wants you to stop taking her for granted and make you realize her worth.
If you have a situation with your girlfriend that broke the foundation of trust between the two of you because of something she did — she is telling you about other guys seducing her just to gain your trust.
She knows that she broke your trust and the only way to get it back is by being honest with you about everything that goes on out there.
If she didn’t use to tell you about other guys chasing her — when she starts opening up to you about them you will start to trust her again.
Deep down you will know that now she is an open book, honest and she will never hold anything from you.
This is the impression she is trying so hard to give you by telling you things that she doesn’t even have to.
So, if there are trust issues this is the reason why she tells you about other guys hitting on her.
2. She wants to make you jealous
When your girlfriend tells you about other guys asking her out, chasing her, and seducing her, she wants to make you jealous.
It may sound a little weird but the truth is that most girls like it when their guys are a little bit jealous.
Girls love attention, the only way she knows she can get the attention she wants from you is by making you jealous.
A guy will only pay attention to his girlfriend when he knows that he is on the verge of losing her to other guys who are fighting for a chance from her.
She knows that when she tells you about other guys hitting on her you will start to mark your territory.
You will start to be more concerned about what she does, who she talks to, and where she goes.
The truth is that you won’t allow another guy to keep hitting on your girlfriend.
She expects you to stand up and be a little bit protective of her.
When you let your girlfriend so free at some point she will feel like you no longer love her as you used to do.
She will think you are falling out of love slowly because you don’t care about losing her to someone else.
The moment she tells you about other guys hitting on her, you will suddenly start being protective over her, you will give her more attention and you will go out with her frequently just to prevent the other guys from making their moves on her.
Deep down this is what she wants you to do and that is why she tells you about the other guys asking her out.
She knows exactly what she is doing.
3. She wants to make you feel insecure
Your girlfriend is telling you about other guys seducing her because she just wants to make you feel insecure.
In most cases, when your girlfriend wants to make you feel insecure isn’t for the better of the relationship.
A woman who loves you will always work to build your confidence and make you feel invisible.
No woman wants to be with a man who doesn’t believe in himself. If your girlfriend is wrecking your confidence it’s not for any good at all.
A girl will withhold information about her past relationships from you just to protect you and not to hurt your feelings.
There might be thousands of creepy things that happened to your girlfriend in her past relationships but she never tells you about them.
Women have a dark past especially those who have been in bad relationships.
If your girlfriend wants to make you feel insecure — she wants to manipulate you, ruin your self-esteem, take control of you, or put you on your toes.
Your girlfriend knows that when she tells you that other guys are closing in on her you will start to feel like you going to lose her to someone else.
Especially if you are already dealing with some insecurities of your own, she is just wrecking the boat in pieces so that you drown completely.
As a man, you will feel threatened when hundreds of guys are hitting on your girlfriend.
Some guys will be better than you and your girlfriend sees that. If you have a weakness that you can’t work on, you might end up thinking that she will leave you for a better guy.
This will keep you battling with insecurities and it will eventually put you in the state that she wants you to.
If she wants to use you for money — you will end up giving her any amount of money she wants so that she doesn’t end up taking anything from the guys who are hitting on her.
On the other side, if you aren’t confident enough because you feel that you are at the mercy of your girlfriend, you will let her take control of everything.
You will always let her make crucial decisions just to give her the impression that you care about her, you value her and you are ready to give her anything.
All this will be for you to keep her around and to kick the other guys away.
Without you knowing, you will be submissive to her — be open to any suggestions she has just to keep her close.
This is the worst thing a man can endure in a relationship. She may end up disrespecting you but you won’t do anything about it because you are afraid to annoy her.
Thinking that when she is not happy with you, she might let the other guys who are hitting on her in.
You won’t be confident enough to face her when she does something to hurt your feelings.
Once she manages to make you feel insecure and you let that take control of everything, you are done!
4. She wants you to stop taking her for granted
If your girlfriend has realized that you have been taking her for granted — she is telling you about other guys hitting on her just to change you.
It’s like she is telling you that if you won’t stop taking her for granted you will lose her to someone else.
She wants you to know that she is still attractive and guys out there are fighting for her. They know that she is someone valuable.
Sometimes we get distracted with other issues in life and forget that the women we have in our lives are important.
When you finally have her in your life you stop putting the effort you used to — you get sloppy because you think she will never go anywhere now that she is in your life.
She is just reminding you that other guys are still into her, you have to put up with your game of taking care of her, loving her, and making her feel special and wanted.
If you keep ignoring her, dismissing her, and hurting her feelings — you will lose her to other guys who put extra effort into winning her.
The truth is that when you realize your girlfriend is being pursued by other guys and you haven’t been a good guy recently to her, it will put you on your toes.
You will start being nicer to her, take care of her, be more romantic, and be close to her just to give her the impression you still love her and want her to stick with you.
She knows that telling you directly that you are taking her for granted might hurt your feelings or bring about other conflicts.
Your girlfriend is avoiding that by telling you that other guys out there see her for who she is — beautiful and hot.
5. She wants to know how you feel about her.
If she is just a friend when she tells you that other guys are hitting on her — she wants to know how you feel about her.
She is telling you about other guys asking her out because she wants to get your reaction.
What you will say and do after she has told you that other guys are after her, will give her an idea of how you feel about her.
If you have been hiding in the side of friendship but deep down you have feelings for her — when she tells you that guys want to be with her you will let go of the friendship.
Deep down you know that if you keep taking things super slow and you don’t make your intentions clear to her, you might end up losing her to another guy and you will be left in the friend zone.
She knows all about this and that is why she is telling you about other guys hitting on her.
What do you have to do with other guys asking her out?
That’s her business, why is she telling you that if she doesn’t have anything to gain?
She wants your response which she will use to determine if you want something more from her or you just want to be friends.
If you have feelings for her and you have been hiding in the shadow of friendship, you will let it all out with the fear of losing her to another guy.
You will express what you feel for her so that she doesn’t give the chance to the other guys who have been hitting on her.
And that is when she will know that you have feelings for her.
But if you go ahead and ask her to give in to the guys who are hitting on her, that is when she will know you don’t have feelings for her.
6. She wants you to make your move on her.
If your friend tells you about other guys hitting on her, she wants you to make your move on her without wasting time.
It can be that the two of you hardly talk about romantic relationships, but the sexual tension between the two of you exists.
You feel something when you look at each other.
The issue is that you have been holding yourselves back and nothing seems to move forward.
When she tells you about other guys hitting on her, she wants you to make a move before someone else does it for you.
She is introducing the topic of a romantic relationship just to remind you of how you look at each other.
It’s like she is installing the ideas in you for you to make a move on them.
The truth is that if she wasn’t into you she wouldn’t have been telling you about other guys hitting on her.
She would have let them in, and she would have introduced you to her new boyfriend.
The fact that she is telling you about other guys seducing her and wanting to hit her, she wants you to make your move.
Lastly…
It’s just as simple as that, if your friend tells you about other guys hitting on her, she wants you to stand up and take up your chance if you feel something for her.
She is informing you that other guys want to be with her, she has a decision to make.
But before she accepts to let any guy in her life, she wants to know if you have feelings for her or not.
She wants to know if you are ready to let other guys have her or if you will take her for yourself.
If she is your girlfriend, she is telling you about other guys hitting on her just to gain your trust, make you feel jealous and insecure, and make you pay attention to her.
Depending on your situation with her, she wants you to start taking her seriously and stop the games you are pulling.
Whatever a girl says has a meaning behind it, she is hoping to achieve something. Don’t let what she says wreck you into pieces no matter how much you love her.
Be the man take control of her and let her know that you will always be there for her.
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