6 Reasons Why She Tells You When Other Guys Hit On Her

A girl telling his boyfriend that other guys hit on her

She tells you when other guys hit on hit but you have no idea what’s her end game.

 

It somewhat makes you uncomfortable when you hear her talking about other guys asking her out, seducing her, and asking for her number.

 

Whenever she goes out and comes back to you that’s the first thing she talks about.

 

There are several reasons why a girl may tell you about other guys hitting on her — she may be doing it out of good faith or just to wreck your emotions and confidence in holding her.

 

In this article, I will dive deep into some of the possible reasons why she does it.

 

To navigate what she is throwing at you, you need to understand what are her intentions behind what she does.

 

What does it mean when a girl tells you when other guys hit on her?

If a girl tells you when other guys hit on her it means she wants to gain your trust, make you pay all your attention to her, make you jealous and insecure for you to handle her the way she wants you to.

 

She may be doing this to manipulate you or show you a token of good faith when it comes to what you are building with her.

 

Anyway, it depends on the current state of your relationship with her.

 

I’ll talk more about it as I explain in detail why she tells you when guys ask her out and seduce her.

 

This is why she tells you when other guys hit on her;

1. She wants to gain your trust.

A girl telling his boyfriend that other guys hit on her

 

When a girl knows that she has broken your trust because of what she did or said she will try everything to gain it.

 

So, if she gave you a reason not to trust her because of what she did — she lied to you about something sensitive and it’s hard for you to trust her as you used to.

 

She is telling you about other guys asking her out because she wants you to know that she is not going to hide anything from you.

 

If a guy claims he wants to be with her, she will tell you everything and even show you the texts he sent to her.

 

She knows that telling you about things that she doesn’t have to will make you trust her again.

 

You will start believing that she is not keeping anything from you.

 

And this is a good way to gain your trust once more.

 

Maybe you had a conflict because of her entertaining other guys who are into her.

 

It wrecked your relationship into pieces. She is trying to fix it by rebuilding the foundation of trust.

 

If this is what has happened between the two of you, she is doing this to make you trust her again.

 

She is desperate and she doesn’t have anything else to do but to share with you anything that will make you believe that she wants to fix things and that now she is honest with you.

 

2. She wants you to pay attention to her.

When a girl doesn’t get your attention, she will try everything she can to pull you closer.

 

For instance, if she has noticed you don’t even recognize the efforts she puts on her body to look beautiful for you, she will want you to know that other guys are paying attention to her.

 

Deep down she knows you are into her but you are too busy to give her the attention she wants.

 

You think that she will always be there for you. You will grab her when you want to and that is why you feel like you don’t have to focus on her.

 

She started telling you that other guys are chasing her for you to realize that you are going to lose her anytime.

 

These guys are giving her attention because they have noticed her worth.

 

She knows that you will feel threatened by the thought of losing her to other guys and you will start giving her what she wants.

 

To be honest, if you are into her and you start realizing that other guys are on her tail, you will do everything to show her that she means so much to you.

 

For you to do that, you will be forced to keep the communication with her going, you will spend so much time with her and you will always be there for her.

 

When you do all these things — you will be giving her the attention she wants.

 

The moment a girl notices that you aren’t paying attention to her despite what she does, she will start pulling stunts to make you look at her.

 

This is what she is trying to do when she tells you that countless guys are interested in her.

 

3. She wants you to take her seriously.

It can be that you aren’t taking her seriously at all. You are not handling her the way she wants.

 

This makes her feel lonely and sad but she can’t tell you about it.

 

When she goes out there other guys give her so much attention, they make her see her worth and there is you ( a guy she adores) taking her for granted.

 

She is thinking of opening her heart to someone else but she doesn’t want to because she cares about you and wants you in her life.

 

You don’t know if guys are after her. She wants you to know that if you aren’t going to give her what she wants, she will let someone else have it all.

 

To be honest, if you are truly in love with her and you don’t want to lose her to someone else, you will do everything you can to make her stick with you.

 

The moment you realize you are on the verge of losing her to someone else, you will do everything you can to keep her.

 

If you start taking her seriously — spending your time with her, investing in her, expressing what you feel for her, and showing her that you see a future with her, this would probably make her ignore the other guys who are hitting on her.

 

She knows all this and that is why she is telling you about other guys fighting so hard to win her heart.

 

You will want to protect your territory by building a foundation around it.

 

This will force you to stop taking her for granted and commit to her.

 

4. She wants you to know that she is valuable to other guys.

Women like it when you are aware of their worth. They love it when it clicks in your head that they are attractive and they can find other guys out there as soon as you leave them.

 

Sometimes it makes them feel secure when they know that guys recognize their value.

 

This makes them believe you will never cheat on them because you know how incredible they are.

 

You are probably going to have it hard to find someone else to replace her.

 

So, when a woman realizes that you don’t notice her value, you don’t think she is important or attractive, she will tell you about other guys fighting for her.

 

She will tell you this to make you realize that if you don’t think she is attractive, other guys out there are dying to hold her.

 

This is just like her telling you, “If you don’t take care of me, someone else will do it for you because I am valuable.”

 

“If you don’t think I am beautiful, someone else does.”

 

This is why she always talks about other guys asking her out, inviting her to their houses, and begging her to let them in.

 

She just wants you to know that if you decide not to see her worth, someone else does and you will eventually end up losing her.

 

It’s like a wake-up call for you that she is better, valuable, and wanted by so many guys out there.

 

Also, when you realize that she is too important and attractive to so many guys out there, you won’t mess up with her.

 

You will always be working on something to keep her close, make her realize that you notice her value, and show her that she is the person you want to have in your life.

 

This is what she wants — to feel secure knowing that no woman will snatch her man away from her and you will handle her the way she wants.

 

5. She wants to make you jealous and insecure.

Another weird reason why she tells you about other guys hitting on her is to make you jealous and insecure.

 

I know you may be asking yourself why would she want to make you jealous.

 

You are going way too far, before you ask yourself that question, you need to know how she is planning to make you jealous by telling you about other guys when they hit on her.

 

She knows that when tells you that other guys are trying everything they can to snatch her away from you, it will move you.

 

This will make you start to pay attention to her, acknowledge everything she does and says, and make you a little bit overprotective.

 

It can be that she likes it when you are jealous. Some women find it cute when a man is jealous.

 

This makes them feel special, wanted, loved, and cared for.

 

So, if you haven’t been that jealous lately and you let her do what she wants, this might be something that doesn’t excite her.

 

She wants you to ask her where she is going, who she is talking to, and why she took so long to come back home with the groceries.

 

This is what she likes but you are too busy to notice these things at all.

 

She knows that when she tells you that other guys are trying harder to win her, you will wake up and start taking note of what is going on.

 

On the other side, she wants you to feel insecure. She may be doing this to manipulate you or just put you on your toes.

 

If a woman wants something from you but knows it will be harder to get it from you, manipulation tactics are what she will use.

 

For instance, if she wants you to give her money, leave everything else for her, and always listen to what she says when it comes to decision-making she will start to pull some tricky steps.

 

When you realize that you are likely to lose your girlfriend to someone else if you won’t give her something she wants, this will force you to give it to her.

 

You will do everything you can to keep her. Also, you will be open to suggestions and this gets her exactly what she is hoping for.

 

The thing is that you won’t even realize she is manipulating you because you will think that you are busy trying to lock her with you.

 

If you are so much in love with her, the information she shares about other guys chasing her will push you to give her what she wants.

 

6. She wants you to express your feelings for her.

If she is just a friend that you hang out so much with and she wants you to express what you feel for her, she will start talking about other guys asking her out.

 

She knows that when she talks about relationship issues with you it will force you to open up if you feel anything for her.

 

It’s normal for a man to open up to a woman that he wants to be with.

 

When you are in love with a woman and it becomes clear to you that you are about to lose her, you will drop everything else and make your intentions clear.

 

She is telling you about other guys hitting on her in a way of asking for advice from you.

 

“AJ wants me to be his girlfriend, what do you think about it? Is he a great guy?”

 

When a girl tells you something like this just know that he wants to hear what you feel about her.

 

If you are in love with her, you won’t vouch for someone else other than yourself.

 

You will ask her not to pay attention to someone else and make your proposal.

 

But if you don’t want anything to do with her, you will give her your honest opinion about the guy that wants to be with her.

 

And you won’t put anything for yourself because you don’t plan to be with her.

 

Through your replies, she will know what you feel about her.

 

So, if a girl starts telling you about other guys wanting to be with her, just know she is pushing you to open up about how you feel about her.

Lastly…

When a girl tells you about other guys hitting on her while you have issues you are dealing with in that relationship, just know that she wants to gain your trust.

 

She knows that by telling you about what goes on out there you will start believing that she is not hiding anything from you.

 

It can be that she also wants you to know how valuable she is for you to take her seriously and commit to her.

 

You will put more effort when you realize there is stiff competition out there.

 

This will push you to pay attention, be there for her, be the best guy she wants you to be, and give he what she yearns for.

 

Other girls do this to make the relationship better, while others do it to use you.

 

So, observe the angle she is using when she tells you about other guys hitting on her.

 

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